Weighing in on the “Fat” issue in the “Black” community

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I, a plus sized, dark-skinned woman, had a love scene on primetime television. I had the most fun ever filming that scene even though I was nervous. But I felt sexy and beautiful and I felt like I was doing a good job. I’m very proud of the work we all did to make that scene a great opening for the episode. I keep hearing that people are “hating” on it. I’m not sure how anyone could hate on love but that’s okay. You may have your memes. Honestly, I’m at work too busy to check Twitter anyway” #Booked.
– Gabourey Sidibe

Ok Black people. I was gonna let it go ‘cuz I know you NEED to crack jokes on folk to make you feel better about yourselves, but seriously some of the comments I’ve read were really too much. First of all 99% of us have an ancestor that look like Gabourey. If someone didn’t have sex with “Big mama” in your family you wouldn’t be here! “Big mama” took care (and probably still is) taking care of you, yo’ kids, yo’ kids kids etc. “Big mama” held/holds your family together and Big Mama was a young woman that had love from someone too.
If you were so repulsed by the sex scene with Gabby, you should have just turned the channel (which I know you won’t do because you gotta see Empire!! Right?) Most of you just became health conscious last week!! Literally. And the rest of you just became light “skin-did” after Beyonce. (Though i know you’ve been trying for decades). Why the constant mockery of heavy/full-figured dark skinned women from you STILL rages in 2015? Who do you see when you look at your family tree, the Kardashians? I was going to say something about self hatred, but I get it.
Moving on and not on a lighter note, I am a full figured woman, though not “plus size” in accordance to the fashion industry standards.  I have an hour glass shape, that makes it difficult for me to by clothes in Juniors or Women’s or Plus Size stores.  I am a Junior size 10 on top, size 12-14 on the bottom. One day I decided that I was going to “Fashion to Figure” to see if I can get a Dress that was gonna sit right on my curves (not too tight so it wont slide when I walk, not too big so that I don’t look like I am wearing a sack) I spent two hours in that store trying to find a dress…WHY? Because the top half of the dress was too big!!!! So does that make me fat here, slim there?
Granted we have all been brainwashed to want to have a celebrity body! Myself included. But are we honest with ourselves as to WHOM we should attempt to model ourselves after? Though I am of the belief that you should be happy in the body you’re in, the skin your in, the hair on your head, it does hurt to want to feel “celebrity-like”. Heck I do and that is why, my health and body role model is Serena Williams. Why you ask? Look below:
sereena and I
I KNOW that I am FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE! I am not a size 2, neither is my fitness model, Serena Williams.  For a very long time I didn’t like my body because as a little girl, I had an adult shape.  I took comfort in knowing that Serena faced the same issue.  She, like me, learned to embrace our bodies.  This is who God made me so who is society to tell me otherwise?
It took me a while to write this blog because, I kept coming across beautiful women of color with  large breast, thick thighs, wide hips and a full butt…NATURALLY!!!!
So what about this scene was offensive to some?
Every WOMAN deserves to be loved, held, touched, made love to, to be sexy, feel sexy, and be treated in a manner in which ANY man appreciates the TOTALITY of who she is.
Kuddos to Gabby, for continuing to unveil the BEAUTY within.  Kuddos to Gabby for not allowing society to dictate what role she should play. Have we not grown as a society yet? Why do we continually allow people to define us? Where is the “round table where “they” sit and decide what is right and what is wrong, acceptable or not acceptable?” I would like to be invited so I can put a mirror in front of them, and allow them to tell me what is “right” about them, that they feel they can dictate what should be “right” with the rest of the world.
Lastly, I leave you with the words of Maya Angelou and images of Beautiful Women.

Phenomenal Woman

BY MAYA ANGELOU

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

 

Loving Who God made ME, The PHENOMENAL WOMAN HE MADE ME!
Unveiled by Dominique

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3 thoughts on “Weighing in on the “Fat” issue in the “Black” community

  1. YES!!!! I loved this post!!! Love the skin you’re in…NOW!!! We are fearfully and wonderfully made!!! Let LOVE lead and guide us on our journey, not only towards others, but towards ourselves. Indeed, we must unveil the beauty within!

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  2. Thank Lakeisha for the support! We as women struggle to much with same image and even worst in the African American Community. It just sickens me how we do our Black women, and then get mad at society when they treat us the same.

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