Why I Love Watching “Being Mary Jane”.

I was watching the show “Being Mary Jane” the other night and for the first time, I really looked at it from the prospective of being a Black Women in a society where the “the good ole’ boys” still rule. For the first time, the show was not about entertainment, but art truly imitating our real life as women of color.  Now I have been watching the show since the beginning. Merely in support of a show featuring a Black Family, Women of Color and I like Gabrielle Union.

Mary Jane Paul aka Pauletta Patterson, played by actress Gabrielle Union, is an African-American single woman who has a affluent career as a prime time news anchor. As successful as she is in that area, she sucks in the area of love.

We as women have issues, the struggle of either being married with children, married with children and a career, being single with children and a career or being single with no children and looking for love. However, as women of color, Latinas included, we have the extra burden of race and ethnicity.

In the episode “Being Kara” the Latina character Kara Lynch played by actress Lisa Vidal, the veil behind which Kara hides  is now being torn away as she is forced to deal with the realities of her inability to balance career and motherhood. In an emotional breakdown, she heart wrenchingly admits that feels like a failure as a mother.

Throughout the episode Kara is fighting what feels more and more like a losing battle, as she asks to have her two boys come to her place after school for the remainder of the week. She’s popping pills, going off on her sons, canceling dinner plans with Gael and his friends who are in town for just a few days, trying to check Marisol who seems to be trying to take MJ’s job, and burning brownies she wants to send to school with her son (so the other mom’s won’t judge her for sending store-bought brownies). After burning the brownies, she goes to MJ for help, well after midnight. She goes to ask MJ to bake brownies for her, and ends up having a minor breakdown about having made the wrong choice to think she could have it all and get married and have children

Being Dominique

How many of us have felt this way? Believing that our sacrifices, to give our children or family members a better life then what we had was worth it.  Only to realize that we loose “ourselves” in midst of it all, not just our identity, but our inability to connect to our own reality.

Recently, I too had to face my own realities, childhood realities, unveiling deep wounds, too hard for me to face, triggered by an argument with my mother, causing a mental breakdown that caused physical pain. My chest felt as if it was about to explode.  All I can do is call on God and repeat the scripture I had just heard my bishop preach on, understanding its significance: “Simon, Simon, Satan has desired to sift you as wheat, but I have prayed for you that your  faith may not fail. And when you have turned back, strengthen your brothers.” Luke 22:31-33.  I had to finally face the wounds of my childhood, that kept me from healthy relationships. And it hurt, and I cried the way Kara cried from a place so deep, that the only thing that could come out of it is RELEASE!

Watching “Being Mary Jane” is therapeutic for women like me who make ultimate sacrifices for the “greater good.” So yes, Art truly imitates Life, as each woman in the show represents real women with real challenges and how they choose to deal with them.

Who are you “Being”?

Unveiled by Dominique

Remove the Veil Reveal Your Strength





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