Nothing Happens by Accident

 

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“Father, I long to make a difference in this world, to leave a legacy.  May it start with trembling at our Word and humbling myself before Your Throne.” (The Journey August 14, 2017)

“I have predestined you…”

A text message that was not intended for a certain group text, started a movement set to empower and encourage women.  Ten women who did not realize that they each were having similar struggles, that they each had a story. This was a “predestined” movement that had been formed in the heavens.  I am convinced.  Nothing just happens.  I am a part of that group of women that God brought together for one purpose: TO EMPOWER! God connected us seven years ago, through our sons, all of whom attended the same all boys school.  Hindsight, it was very strategic; the PTA connected us, but our love for sisterhood bonded us.  We worked so well together, each having a role, a part in helping our sons and the school be better.  From that, we became friends, then sisters. We shared our pain, our struggles, our fears concerning our sons.  We were transparent with each other, cried together, prayed together and for each other.  Seven years later, “The Daughters of the King” was born, an organization to encourage women that we are not in this alone.

God used a simple devotional book called “Journey”, a Woman’s Guide To Intimacy With God, to put it all together.  The ten of us were so uplifted, inspired and encouraged by the text, that we too wanted to take the Journey.  One of the members gifted a subscription to each of us, so that we may share in the Journey God had her on.  I want to share this Journey with you to inspire you as I was inspired, encourage you as I was encouraged and empowered as I am empowered. So take this journey with me and my sister friends as we pray, uplift, strengthened, forgive, find the courage and find boldness.  we all have a story, we are all on this journey, it’s called L-I-F-E.

As the founder of my own Ladies Empowerment Organization, Tear The Veil, Inc.,  I want to share this Journey with you to inspire you as I am inspired, encourage you as I am encouraged and empower you as I am empowered.  So take this journey with me and my sister friends as we pray, uplift, strengthen, forgive, find the courage and find boldness.  We all have a story, we are all on this journey called L-I-F-E.

GOD IS INTENTIONAL! Ruth 1:1-22

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August 14, 2017, Devotional:

Building a Lasting Legacy.

“I will look favorably on this kind of person: One who is humble, submissive in Spirit, and trembles at my Word.” (Isaiah 66:2).

Good morning ladies. We have been blessed to open our eyes on yet another day, another opportunity to be emptied of our pride and filled with the Lord. As we work and fill our days with the responsibilities of life, let’s remember to make choices to positively impact the lives of those around us. There is nothing that we can create, build, or maintain that would come close to impacting the world more than giving ourselves to the Lord for Him to demonstrate His legacy through us. Let’s search for His mission for us with the talents He has gifted each of us. There is peace and joy in the lives of His children who are obedient to His word. Let’s open our hearts, minds, and give our talents to Him for His legacy, as it is the only legacy that matters. Be encouraged as you read Isaiah 66:22-23. Read, pray and study everyday. Have a wonderfully blessed day !!! (Karen Campbell- Daughters of the King Treasurer).

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Walking Through the Doors of Success, Alone and Afraid.

I am not a timid person, more “reserved”.  For a long time, I was ok being by myself, accepting rejection as a part of my life, and excusing the pain by justifying “the I’m only child” skit.  As I got older and wanted to do some things, more things, I complained often that I did not have any supportive friends, and used the same skit of “I’m ok, being alone, because I am an only child”.  So when entrepreneurship became a reality, and the reality of the importance of networking set in, I faced a challenge that I had never faced before: getting through the Door of Success.  The Universe (My God) handed me the keys some time ago, but I was too busy expecting reciprocation from those I had supported in the past, leaving me hurt and frustrated.  It took my friend, a person I met with a common vision to say, “but you have a circle of supportive women, you are just not looking at them…” She was right. They were there all time. Soooo….

I am changing my circle.  I am changing the way I think, I move, I operate.  With the leading of God, My heavenly Father, I am pushing past FEAR, defying the “Generation X” and like Madam C.J. walking “On My Own Grounds”.  I am going to be so intentional about taking “Me” to the next level, to truly walk into my Destiny that has been calling me for years now.

The first this I did was attend a Black Bloggers United Power Hour event…alone.  I stepped out of my comfort zone, I traveled in the snow to another NYC borough, to Kings (Brooklyn) from Queens to meet some amazing women.

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Being Intentional, Be Fearless, Be Bold

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From Wilderness to Promise

“The minute I get out of my own way, I will see the road ahead.” -Dominique McCullough.

I have been on this journey since 2015.  Maybe longer and I just was unaware.  My journey started out of pain, hurt and disappointment in myself mainly.  Conscious and unconscious actions and decisions led me down a path of self-destruction.  I had convinced myself that I was destined for a life of struggle.  I would get what I wanted, but it would come harder than everyone else.  As a result, I built this wall to keep hurt and pain away. If anyone tried to enter, I fought like hell.

Yes, I have been on this journey in search of my purpose, my reason for being.  My Destiny…“In the Messiah, He chose us in love before the creation of the universe to be holy and without defect in His presence”Ephesians 1:4 Complete Jewish Bible.  However, what I see is a broken little girl, who grew up to be a broken woman, in search of healing…

I have heard the voice of the prophets, I have heard the small still voice of the Holy Spirit.  I also heard the voice of Fear, and Doubt; Procrastination and Distraction.  Sets of “twins” whose job is to convince me that all God has said about me in Ephesians 1 is not true.  But I have pushed through it, fighting for what God has for me.  Not always leaning on Him, often times leaning on my own understanding.  But God keeps me, covers me, because “In all His wisdom and insight, He has made known His secret plan, which by His own will He designed beforehand in connection with the Messiah and will put into effect when the time is ripe-His plan to place everything in heaven and on Earth under the Messiah’s Headship.” Ephesians 1:8-10 Complete Jewish Bible.  Therefore His plan must come to fruition.  His purpose for me.

tumblr_ogylphrK4S1ut1kpfo1_1280When the launch of Tear The Veil, Inc. did not happen.  I was disappointed and embarrassed. I was faced with yet another hurdle, and although I really tried to tell myself, that this is all in God’s Plan, my mind, was working overtime to show me my failure.  One morning I woke up and found this in my inbox: You have endured everything from inconvenience to hardship with every circumstance leading to the understanding of life, people and yourself.  The lessons learned have been invaluable and ultimately have had the potential of making you stronger than you have ever been as you trust Me in all things.  You are truly being transformed into My image, says the Lord.
2 Corinthians 3:18 So all of us, with faces unveiled, see as in a mirror the glory of the Lord; and we are being changed into His image, from one degree of glory to the next, by Adonai the Spirit. That confirmed it all for me. Tear The Veil Inc., is going to launch as one of the most phenomenal women’s empowerment organizations in this nation…In His timing.

There is a purpose in the wilderness, my wilderness.  In 2015, I traveled to Bali and climbed to the top of the Batur Volcano Mountain.  It took two and half hours. I now understand Deuteronomy 8:2. God speaks to us in the wilderness.  God also humbles and proves us in the wilderness.  The wilderness period can last days, or years, depending on how quickly we learn its lessons.

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In the meantime, I am changing and building a new circle of women, leaving some folks behind, stepping out on faith, doing it Afraid and Alone. WALKING INTO MY DESTINY!!!!

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“Love Yourself” Susan L. Taylor

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I began my subscription to Essence Magazine whenI was 15.  This was at a time when there was no real way of checking if you were old enough to take on that responsibility.  I so looked forward to receiving my monthly copy, just so I can read what the Editor in Chief had to say.  I remember looking at her photo and seeing a Black Goddess.  Her long cornrows, going straight down her back.  The “Essence” of Black Beauty.  Susan L. Taylor, a journalism beast! Susan L. Taylor (born January 23, 1946) is an American editor, writer, and journalist. She served as editor-in-chief of Essence from 1981 through 2000. In 1994, American Libraries referred to Taylor as “the most influential black woman in journalism today”.

Susan Leaves Essence Magazine

“I will be leaving Essence to do what at this juncture in my life has become a larger work for me—building the National Cares Mentoring Movement, which I founded as Essence Cares and today is my deepest passion.”
–Susan L. Taylor, December 28, 2007)

When Ms. Taylor left Essence Magazine, I was devastated.  I sat in disbelief as I read her letter.  Who was going to be my source of inspiration?  see Susan had become my “Judy Blume” at a time when I was not only coming into my womanhood but also my awareness of who I was becoming as a Black Woman.  I grew up in the era of “Black Power” as a child of the ’70’s.  The images of “Black Is Beautiful” was overshadowed by my generation’s need to be all that we can be as an African-American Community, breaking free (or so we thought) from segregation and enjoying the freedoms established by the Civil rights Movement.  Susan, in my eyes, represented the images of the ’70’s, the breaking of barriers, my mirror.   The magazine was never the same.  I let my subscription lapse.  In New York Times article, dated December 28, 2007, it lists all of her accomplishments, especially the reason why she left the magazine- to pursue her desire and passion for helping disadvantaged children.  She is an avid supporter of a host of organizations dedicated to moving the Black community forward. Her passion and focus are on creating equity in education and turning around the nation’s failing schools, which, she says are “the pipeline to prison.” Susan founded the CARES Mentoring Organization to address these issues, that plagues the Black Community.

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So this Women’s Month and International Women’s Day I celebrate Susan L. Taylor! #BeBoldForChange

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Being Intentional, Being Bold

It’s International Women’s Day! And I am changing my circle.  I am changing the way I think, I move, I operate.  With the leading of God, My heavenly Father, I am pushing past FEAR, defying the “Generation X” and like Madam C.J. “On My Own Grounds”.  I am going to so intentional about taking “Me” to the next level, to truly walk into my Destiny that has been calling me for years now.quote-i-have-crossed-over-on-the-backs-of-sojourner-truth-harriet-tubman-fannie-lou-hamer-oprah-winfrey-76-53-88

Happy International Women’S Day #BeIntentional and #BeBoldForChange

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I am in the Purpose Room

How many different ways does someone have to tell you what you what you already know?  How difficult is it to really stand in your purpose so that you can get to your destiny?

During this Lenten Season 2017, my fast will be non-traditional.  Growing up Catholic, we were taught that we must sacrifice our fleshy pleasures for 40 days.  I never understood why, because it is not Biblical and Jesus already atoned for our sins so that we do not have to do these rituals of atonement with whom exactly? God or Self?  In this season, I will fast as commanded by my Lod and Savior Jesus Christ.  “But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”-Matthew 6:17-18.  I will say this, though, I will be in THE PURPOSE ROOM

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There is a wall.  It is mental. I am reminded of the scripture in Romans 7 “the spirit is willing bu the flesh is weak…” Weak to the invisible wounds that I won’t allow to heal. Allowing myself to be trapped in it because it acts as a shield again pain, hurt and disappointment.  Bishop T.D. Jakes said it best in his book ” Your Mind may guide you in what you do, but your heart affirms your passion for doing it, and that leads you to resolve the way of your life…As you stand back from yourself and see the push of instincts welded with the pull of purpose that leads you into destiny,  you will know the events and circumstances in your life equate to more than just coincidences or mere facts.  The coming together of all of these events and connections, some seemingly random, are the results of divine orchestration to empower to accomplish what God has placed in you.” Destiny: Stepping into your Purpose by Bishop T.D. Jakes.  Like I said, its mental.  I had to chuckle at this passage because, the day before writing this blog, I was sitting in the laundromat, minding my own business, and this woman, randomly (lol) struck up a conversation, about DVD’s that led to the sharing of her failed marriage and confessions of adultery.  I chuckle because of the weekend prior to that encounter, a woman whispered in my ear “Women need to hear our voice…”

I am reading the “Purpose Room” by Heather Lindsey.  I read the sample first. I should have known better. Her books are amazing. I no longer have any excuses as to why I cannot do what God has purposed me to do.  I know that God has a plan for my life.  I am hearing the call so much clearer now.

I have a story, deeply rooted in childhood experiences, distorted by my childhood views and adult point of view. Experiences that served as the pieces of fabric woven together to create the “veil” I am so desperately wanting to tear.

I am finally seeing past the confetti…Finally seeing who God has purposed and destined me to be me to be…16999091_10212289967268694_4978916473972594682_n.jpg

Stepping into my Destiny

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BeyGoals- Fearfully and Wonderfully Made

 

In this blog post, I want to honor one of the strongest Black Female Artist of this generation.  Say what you want about Beyonce, but even fellow female artist Adele, had to give respect where respect is due.  During her Grammy Award acceptance speech, she stated: “…the way that you make me and my friends feel, the way you make my black friends feel, is empowering.”  She (Adele) was talking about the Album “Lemonade”.  I have to admit that, indeed that album was by far the best call to the world that Black Women are a force NOT to be reckoned with.  With “Formation” she served notice to ALL that she loves her family exactly as they are… And herself, too. Radical. Self. LOVE.

With that said, Bey came under fire (again) about her Madonna-like image and the display of her very much pregnant body.  So clearly they did not get the message in Lemonade.

Psalm 139:14 says: “I thank you because I am awesomely made, wonderfully; your works are wonders -I know this very well. (Complete Jewish Bible Version); the King James Version says “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well..  Either way, Our Creator designed us as Black women so well, that other ethnic groups and race, go through changes to achieve what God gave us naturally.

“Historically, black women’s bodies have been utterly disrespected. We nurtured and fed other race’s children from our breasts. We were raped and bore children for slave masters. And yet, were made ashamed of our bodies, our curves, our blackness.
We were treated as concubines and receptacles for a man’s seed–and frankly, sometimes we still are. Other races are consistently celebrated and heralded for motherhood. Black women are not–definitely not consistently.  
Beyoncé’s performance was a declarative statement. Black women carry and give life beautifully. And that is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
I am a Christian. I am fearfully and wonderfully made–in God’s image. And that includes my blackness. And that includes my femininity. Psalm 139:14 can’t just apply to whom and when you want. I celebrate all the parts of who I am–not just the parts that feed others’ needs or makes them comfortable. *walks away*” –Adeea Rogers of TrendySocialite-

And I concur!

 

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Honor yourself! Phase II (One Day My Soul Just Opened Up)

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Whoa! Honor myself? What does that even mean and where do I begin? I had to reference Iyanla Vanzant’s book to put in writing what is locked up inside.  Honoring myself has been a challenge.  To honor yourself mean that you have to SEE yourself the way God sees you.  I don’t care how much Bible you know, or how many people see the “gift” inside of you. If you cant see it for yourself. then I believe you can be completely healed.

The biggest regret in my life was the day I rejected my Grand-Mother’s need for forgiveness from me.  She wanted me to forgive her for the things she had said to me growing up; I just couldn’t, I wouldn’t.  She was my Grand-Mere, the big person.  How dare I allow her to ask for forgiveness.  “It’s OK Grand-Mere, don’t worry about it” I said.  All the while, I am reliving the pain of her asking me “why did you have to be so stupid and take after your father? (My father is a darker skin tone than the rest of my family).  I never told her I forgave her, and I never got the chance.

Affirmation: I am Black, I am Beautiful.  I am worthy of all things that God has given me.  I am fearfully and wonderfully made…wonderful are the works of His hands and my Soul boasts thereof.

I took me a long time to get to that point.  To see my self as pretty.  Even when other people would say that I am beautiful,  I would not embrace it.  Did you know that the subconscious mind retains everything you hear? A seed is planted that takes root over time.  What it produces, is reflective of what we hear, both good and bad.

If something in your life isn’t honoring you, then it simple doesn’t deserve a seat at your table. It is healthy to let go. –Sherrie Campbell

There is no better time than RIGHT NOW to start honoring yourself. Start with how you talk to yourself. Say good, nice, encouraging things to yourself. Support yourself with healthy relationships, get counseling, join a support group–do whatever it takes to get yourself to the place where you honor everything about yourself. I deserve it!!!  And so do you!

Stay with me on this journey to the Resurrected me.

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Keeping it Simple. Day 8 (One Day My Soul Just Opened Up)

I think Confucius said it best:

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As a child life is simple.  We live free spirited with out a care in the world.  As get older, we start to experience life, I guess.  I believe that deep down inside, we all long to go back to that place when life was SIMPLE.  At what point in our life experience did we begin to complicate the simple things?

I am trying to go back deep in my psyche when things were simple.  I would get up on a Saturday morning, before my mom woke up, get my bowl of cereal, sit in my high chair (yes I sat in my high chair until I was 5) and watched my morning educational cartoons such as School House Rock.  Simple…

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So true. I could just simply write, but there are all these thoughts; which hinders my focus.   when I first read this book and began this journey in 1198, I wrote that I personally do not over complicate things, and truth told I really don’t.  I don’t stress as much over things as others do. Yet, I have an expectation of how things should be done, which when it does not happen, I start to overthink, over process, complicate.  I get frustrated, annoyed and even angry…Over what? Oh Yeah, its real simple, either it is going to get done or its not.  easier said then done.

I am working on it though. Being simple in everything.  God simply created me: Genesis 1:27 says “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.” Simple.  God simply loves me. Jesus simply died for me.

Affirmation:Today I understand the SIMPLE truth that my life does not need to be complicated.  Today I accept the SIMPLE truth that SIMPLE faith, grounded in SIMPLE trust, grounded by SIMPLE prayer, will yield SIMPLY fantastic results! And for that knowledge of SIMPLE truth I am so grateful.- One Day My Soul Just Opened Up Day 9- Simplicity)

Stay on this Journey with me.  I promise you it will be worth it!

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Daddy are you listening? Prayer-The Direct Line to God. Day-3 (One Day My Soul Just Opened Up) 

I remember as a kid playing this game called telephone. There were actually two types of game with same name. One where you would take two cans, poke a whole at the end of the can, insert a cord and connect it to the other end of the second can.
In the other , a message is given to the first person in a line of people and then they are instructed to pass the message on by whispering it in the ear of the next person in line. The message goes from person to person until it reaches the end of the line, and that person announces the message to the group. In most cases, the message that is announced to the group is significantly different from the message that was originally given to the first person in the line. While the game is amusing, it also teaches us an important lesson that people often forget.

These game are the difference between talking to God and talking to people.

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Prayer is simply defined as communication with God. Think about a close friendship you have. Sure, that person is there for you when you need them, but you talk to them all the time, don’t you? You share your lives, don’t you? Well, God wants to be your best friend. You can tell Him everything and anything, you can laugh with Him, you can talk about your day with Him, you can be honest with Him, you can express the desires of your heart with Him. The bottom line is He wants to hear it all! God greatly desires that you have intimate, personal communication with Him.
For me, my communication with God was through journaling. I remember how I couldn’t wait to “write” God all of daily thoughts, activities, wants and desires. I would always start off with “Dear Daddy…” And like a child tell Him everything. One day, my husband read my journal and discovered some things about me. He was angry. He called me and read parts of my journal entries to me and my whole world was shattered. All I remember saying to him was ” that’s my private conversations with God…” His response was as venomous as a snake, ” You’re talking to God about this, well you better be talking to me…” I was devastated. Not because of what he read my journal, but because personal conversations with God were no longer sacred. I felt violated, raped even. I never wrote again and I stopped talking to God. I had lost my best friend. He was taken away from me. I became afraid to pray because I felt as if my relationship was no longer personal. I dabbed in it out habit, desperation, but I knew I had disconnected myself.
It’s been 7 years since that day. And I am now ready to return to that place, that secret place in God.

I have been out of alignment for some time now rendering my prayers ineffective. Subconsciously, I would pray for things that were sure. Provision, God said He would provide, Protection, God said He would be my protection. Covering for my children, a no brainer for God.
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I am have made up in my mind, that I am going to stop blaming God and people for the things that went wrong in my life. I am taking full responsibility for my life so that my prayers are answered quick and fast.
Therefore, this time around Prayer will be a re-alignment with what already exists in me and open my mind to the revelation of this existence in the the world around me. I will be specific in my prayers, just as God said to do in Luke 11:9-13.

I am a child of God; Princess to the Holy King. Greater is He that is in me, than he that is in the world!

Daddy!!!! Are you listening?   I’m coming Home!!!

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